7 Tips to Help Your Teen if They are Struggling at School

7 Tips to Help Your Teen if They are Struggling at School

Most kids reach a point where they might struggle in school. It might be due to external pressures, learning to be better organized, or even the result of a bully during the day. If your teen is struggling at school, there are things you can do to help them make a connection between their actions and how they feel, as well as understand how their actions impact those around them. Here are some tips for helping your teenager if they’re having trouble in school.

Help Them Identify the Source

It’s important to let your teen know that you want to help and that you’re there for them. Asking open-ended questions can be a good way to start the conversation. Maybe they don’t understand the topic being taught and the teacher won’t answer questions. Perhaps they feel tired, overwhelmed, or stressed because of something else going on in their life.

Don’t Tie Performance at School to Discipline at Home

It’s important that kids don’t get punished for failing grades or doing poorly. Instead, help them come up with solutions so that they can improve by the next set of grades. Punishing them will only reinforce any negative emotions they already have about themselves because of school.

Talk About Their Feelings About School

Talking about their feelings will help them feel like they can talk to you without having any negative consequences. Maybe school makes them feel anxious because they are around so many people. Perhaps they feel overwhelmed thinking about their future. You may want to ask questions like, “What do they like about school? What is challenging at school? Do they feel pressure from teachers or other peers? Are they spending too much time on homework and not enough with friends?”

The more questions you ask, in a gentle and non-confrontational way, the more likely you can help them come up with solutions. You might realize that there is more going on than you first thought. And these challenges in school could be related to PTSD in a teenage girl or boy due to bullying or another stressful event.

Help Them Make the Connection Between Their Actions and How They Feel

The next time you see your teen doing something they shouldn’t, take a moment to ask them “How do you feel about what you are doing?”. You may be surprised by the answer. Teens are often unaware of how their actions affect others and their future. Asking them this question gives them insight into the impact their actions have on themselves and those around them. It also gives them perspective on the consequences of their choices, which can help teens make better decisions in the future.

Communicate With the School

Make sure to talk to the school counselor and even the teachers. They can be a great resource for helping you find the right classes and extracurricular activities for your teen, as well as providing support in other areas of their life. They may also know about any programs that can help your child improve his/her academic performance or behavior at school.

Help Your Teen Get Enough Sleep

The teen years come with a lot of growth. Getting sleep is critical for mental, emotional, and physical health. Late nights on the phone and early mornings going to school can be overwhelming. Maybe your teen is dozing off in class and missing out on important steps and details that would help them excel in their studies. Creating a healthy environment where they can get the rest they need can alleviate a lot of this pressure, help them focus, and ultimately, give them the tools they need to learn.

Create a Plan

Develop a plan together that could help their situation. Once you’ve identified the main issues your teen is having, it’s time to create a plan that will help them overcome these challenges. If your child struggles in school, it’s important that they know how to implement this plan on their own and have control over their actions. Develop an action plan with your child based on the issues they’ve identified. Make sure they understand what they need to do differently in order to improve their grades or behavior at school.

Dr. Anastasia Halldin holds a Ph.D in holistic nutrition. She is a homeschooling mother of four boys and a girl. Dr. Anastasia starred on a yoga TV show. She also produced and appeared in thirteen yoga DVDs. Dr. Anastasia speaks four languages and loves doing crafts with her children. She adores sharing her easy healthy family recipes with other mothers.